Author – Lin Lv Ninghua (senior psychological counselor)
The main reason for addiction is to avoid stress
Which children are most likely to become addicted to video games? Are you easily trapped by electronic products?
Dr. Andrew Doan, who specializes in helping young people detoxify from drugs, electronic products, and video games, pointed out that the main reason for addiction is to avoid stress, including academic pressure, social loneliness, family disharmony, and parental friction. and struggle. I know a child who was not originally addicted to video games, but when his parents were getting divorced, he often started playing video games online to escape the pain in his heart. Because he felt lonely, he looked for illusory friendships online, hoping that Be accepted.
Social connections are actually the most addictive for children.
My friend’s daughter met a strange man on the Internet. In order to prevent her from boarding the bus to New York and eloping with the man, my friend tracked her daughter to the bus stop. It can be seen that surfing the Internet not only causes negative emotions in children, but also causes many dangerous situations.
Video game professional design is very attractive
Why are video games so attractive, especially to boys? Because video games are designed with the help of senior psychologists and are very professional, the game graphics are extremely rich, the colors are bright, the sound is surging and powerful, and the plot is very exciting. Young people can pass the game and advance endlessly, giving them a sense of satisfaction, achievement and heroism. In this virtual world, children can challenge their own limits and abilities, so it is very attractive.
On the other hand, in reality, he does not get these senses of accomplishment. He may have poor academic performance and is full of frustration. His parents put a lot of pressure on him, and he cannot find meaningful activities or hobbies. However, video games make him feel that he can achieve The goal can be achieved by oneself.
Life lacks goals
There are also many young people who feel depressed and have never developed a hobby to help them relieve their boredom. They have no passionate and compassionate goals and cannot find a solution, so they easily become addicted to video games. I encourage everyone to help their children participate more in sports and team competitions and reduce their reliance on video games or online media to kill time.
Encourage children to participate in group activities
Hong Kong swimmer Ho Sze-bei, who has won multiple gold and silver medals, admitted that she had little exposure to video games when she was a teenager because she focused all her energy and thoughts on competitions. My son participated in the School Band for four years when he was in middle school. It was a good group activity and well planned, so there was no need to worry about him spending time playing video games.
Liu Caiyi, a Chinese researcher who specializes in Internet addiction, wrote the following: "Although the Internet is virtual, it has many similar designs to reality, and at the same time it saves too much boredom and helplessness in the real world. , the Internet builds a picture of an ideal home in children's minds, and they are so addicted to it that they can no longer distinguish between real life and virtual life. People living in the real world find it difficult to understand why teenagers are so addicted to it. In online games, we don’t know that the world in which children work hard is also a world in which they escape reality, pursue individual independence, and realize their own lives. If our society can provide children with some diversified entertainment venues and facilities, For example, football fields, children's palaces, ice rinks, etc. can help them have more places to relax in their spare time. The Internet will not become their only entertainment, and they can also choose other ways to relieve their emotions. "
Willing to quit addiction to achieve important goals
In the church, I saw parents taking their children on short-term missions, leaving the Wi-Fi network and going to some backward countries. After returning, the parents said they had changed a lot and would help wash the dishes. , cleaning the home; unfortunately, after one or two months, they started to go online again... Especially during the epidemic, many teenagers were trapped at home, and were forced to push into a virtual world, making it difficult to extricate themselves. However, when they find that their very important goals will be hindered by video games or electronic products, they may be motivated and willing to accept help to change their habit of constantly facing the computer.